How Tom Barnaby Treated His Wife, Joyce
Early on I noticed or felt that Joyce was portrayed as a nincompoop: she was this flighty, dingy housewife who tried to fill her time taking different classes, volunteering in different capacities, and trying out different meals, and Tom treated her as such--he would roll his eyes and act soever put out by her efforts to engage him in anything.
I noticed also that Tom didn't seem to mind taking a gander at women he found sexy or attractive or smart and sexy, etc.
But it was in Season 12, Episode 3 (?) that I breached my annoyance/anger point when he grabbed the two teddy bears Joyce had won at the fair and gave them to a pair of toddlers they encountered.