^Exactly. Pennilayne you hit it on the head!
Really and honestly, the smart girls are going to be with the smart guys. I mean, the ones who have common sense and want to build a future for themselves will go for each other. That's just how it is.
The last guy I dated was like how Pennilayne described; he just wanted someone to fxck and only wanted to date a hot girl as if I wasn't hot enough, and it's not like I'm unattractive. He even full out said to me that I shouldn't be bothered that he watches porn, and said he wanted to fxck Blake Lively. Yeah, a real winner.
He got mad at me because I got fired from the company that we worked at for a stupid reason, and for a while I ended up nannying for a few kids who's mother had to be at work at a certain time, so she couldn't get them to school. He hated that I did that because the mom wasn't the most well-off in terms of career and money.
He was a college dropout, and he still had an ego from high school because he was a star swimmer and the swimmers were treated like gods at our old school. (BTW, I didn't know him back then, it wasn't until later). He didn't look like a jock. He had more of a Peter Parker look about him. I received my degree, but I didn't think I was better than him because of that. He constantly called me "fxcking stupid" and said I wouldn't amount to much.
What did make me fxcking stupid was that I took him back two other times because he claimed he "changed," but then the final nail in the coffin was that he was jealous that I got a notification in the mail to participate in some beauty pageant. Why he got angry about that, I don't know why.
I'm so glad that *beep* dumped me because not only did I start doing things that were better for myself, but I grew emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually more as a person. While I still watch the kids I used to, I ended up with a store management job and have another job in the career I went for in writing and social media.
Enough about me, back to what Penni said, it's not all about looks, it's not all about money, it's not all about sex, people really want first and foremost someone they can emotionally connect with, and someone who TREATS THEM RIGHT. The smart people, at least. I was never into the jocky, Abercrombie type guys anyway because I hate arrogance. Obviously, they're not all like that. Yes, but confidence is different. The so-called nerdy guy could be super confident and have loads of people liking him for the charisma he has, but the stereotypically good looking guy could be insecure and not have a lot of confidence, therefore doesn't get all the attention.
It goes for girls, too. What if the "porn star hot" or "Megan Fox" looking girl is actually pretty intelligent? I'm not talking a genius, but someone who keeps up on world events, reads sometimes, and has common sense. A stereotypical douchey guy doesn't want to deal with a girl who's intellectual even if she's stereotypically hot. Men like that hate women with advanced opinions.
Plus, I'm not a shallow girl. My two celeb crushes are Scott Weiland (RIP) and John Lydon. I really loved Scott's voice, his different styles of music, his style of clothing, his handsome face, the beautiful blue green eyes he had, and he was a great lyricist. I liked how he always changed things up. I like John because he's always honest, even if it comes off hateful or random. He changed the rock scene, and came out with something meaningful to backlash the paint-by-numbers prog rock and shxtty disco music. I like how his music has evolved. I like his style of dress, too. I think he's funny. I think he has a handsome face. Yeah, he may not be 80 pounds like he was when he was in the Sex Pistols, but I still think he aged pretty well, and he won't BS anyone.
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