This is a key element to the plot. Do these care facilities really have a rule where no one can visit their loved one for thirty days? For those that have had to put their loved ones in such institutions, please let me know.
If so, that is amazing. I would think that would really cut down on business for facilities that insist on such a rule.
thats a bunch of bull *beep* goes against a persons human rights. I am only 22 but i've been a nurse for 2 years on an alheimers ward...it would make the transition horrible for the resident.
sharei put my grandma in a home a few years ago and this was not the case. we could visit her as much as we wanted and we still can; but im not an expert on the subject, i just have my own experience. and im not sure what the standard is in canada.
shareIt has nothing to do with reality. It was a plot device to ensure that she forgot her husband.
shareThey may not now- I hope not- but at one time there was such a policy; indeed it was recommended that people should not visit relatives in long-term psychiatric hospitals or care homes of any kind.
shareI work in a facility that has many Alzheimer's patients and not once have I seen a family forbidden to see their loved ones. I think that the whole thing was just a plot point because it would be worse for the patient if they did not have the familiar around them to help them cope. Families can visit the very next day if they chose and most do.
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I've never heard of that either. Maybe for inpatient drug/alcohol treatment that have a few weeks where you cannot see them at the beginning, but not nursing homes!! I was mad at Grant for NOT having a fit (at the top lady) when he came back and she was acting like she was toward him. 30 days practially GUARANTEES an Alzheimer's patient won't remember someone very well. Of course, I would have found somewhere else or at least CHECKED other similar typs homes for their policies before I would ever agree to that rule for a loved one.
shareI've known people with Alzheimer's, both in and out of facilities, and I've known families of Alzheimer's patients who needed to put them in residential care. And I've never come across that rule, either. Perhaps there are places that would do that, but I think it may have just been to create the storyline and facilitate it.
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If anyone is still reading this thread, I just had to put my mother into an Alzheimers care facility. They do not have a no visitors "rule". However, they do "recommend" that we don't come around for the first week or so. The reason is because everytime my mom sees a family member she thinks that she is going home and gets very agitated. She needs time to get to know the staff and become dependent on them, not us.
It's an incredibly difficult decision that you've made; unfortunately, Alzheimer's gives you few options. You have my sympathy.
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We placed my Mom in an Alzheimer unit a year ago, last summer and they gave us the codes to all of the doors and we can come and go anytime day or night. I take my Dad about 3 times a week and after a year, she called my Dad by his nickname today and the other day she looked at me and your my son. I damned near cried. I just smiled and gave her a hug. She will never get better, but she is holding her own.
shareI like their policy. Just remember that when your Mom doesn't know who you are or thinks you're someone else, go with it; don't correct her. The experts call it "making the journey with the patient". It truly is easier on you both.
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Agreed.
When my dad would wake up in the middle of the night looking for my mother who had died in 1987, I told him that she was shopping and that calmed him down. At my support group, there was one man who had brought his mother all the way to Europe to show her the gravestone of her own mother. Within five minutes she was asking for her mother again. It's a tough journey to make but unless yo do, you'll cause frustration for your loved one and heartbreak for yourself.
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I've only dealt with a few of the REALLY nice ones...and they don't have that rule.
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