Am I Lars?


When I was 15, my hamster died of a heart attack in my hands.
He was gasping for air as his mouth and nose showed some blood.

I ran to grab a straw and put it in his mouth and started to breath air through the straw to my hamster. Then I pumped his chest a few times and repeated the process.

He died in my hands and I balled my eyes out the whole night and the next day.

I really thought I could resuscitate him. How come I'm not the most romantic guy ever and why am I still single now in my 30s and no girls lined up for me after that heroic act?

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Its not your fault.

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Because you're not ryan gosling :( Don't take it too hard, I'm not either.

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Are you being serious? That's a horrible thing to experience!

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My brother had a similar experience with his tabby. the last sound it made was a soft mewl as he tried to gently pump it's sides to get it breathing again. Very sad, he was only 13 and he loved his cat dearly.

I don't think it means anything more than you love your pet and either didn't know better but wanted to help, or panicked, or both. It's the hardest part about getting any pet; we only get to be with them for a few years in most cases, 10-20 for dogs or cats, but they can almost feel like soul mates.

Your reaction sounds pretty normal, at least to me.

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I'm sorry, but I'm not seeing the correlation, unless your hamster was only a delusion? What you describe is a normal part of life & growing up. Granted, there are people that don't bond with their pets growing up, but I'd like to think the majority of us do & either have or would do something like that in a similar situation. However, you were only 13!! If that is the predominant act of kindness & being a hero that you can recall in your life, are you really that surprised that you are single now in your 30's? Get out there, meet people, try new things, take chances, allow yourself to be seen as much vulnerable as strong, & try to always keep in mind two things:

1) All of us go to great & ridiculous lengths to always look secure & alright, but deep down we are all really just insecure & lonely, desperately wanting to share our lives with someone special.

2) Like attracts like; what you put out into the world is what you get back, but it takes work. If you put out positivity & effort, that's what you will eventually find yourself surrounded with. Just as misery loves company. So, fake a smile until you realize you no longer have to.

Just my opinion. Take it or leave it. I wish you the best & that you'll soon find the one meant just for you!

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Are you using the hamster story to try to get dates? That could be why you are single. No offense but I wouldn't start off with that story when first talking to chicks...

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I don't see how attempting to perform CPR on a pet as a child is strange, or what it would have to do with the movie or any inability to get dates or get married or anything.
I'm in my early forties, married twenty years, and I would absolutely attempt CPR on my dog if he keeled over for no apparent reason.
If he was old, in poor health, or grievously injured, then no. But if he was just sitting there and went over, and I couldn't detect breathing or a pulse, I damn sure would try.
I don't see how that's odd. It's love.
And loving my pet, and my pets before him, did not affect my ability to get dates, get laid, and get married.
Maybe you just aren't out there meeting people enough.
(I agree with the person who said I wouldn't bring the hamster thing up to a chick when you're on a date. If a guy had said that to me on our first date, I would have found it a very odd topic.)

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