Could she have been any more melodramatic? "Get me out of here!" And then laying in total darkness all day and having to be fed by Samantha. Freaking pathetic. "Will I ever laugh again?" Will I ever stop puking?
Don't puke in the punch and tell me it's alphabet soup.
I actually felt bad for her...After all that hoopla and photoshoot and the huge guest list then Big leaves her there...I would be humiliated and devastated.
shareIn reality, for most people going through a break up or a divorce from a long term relationship is harder on them both mentally and physically then losing a family member. It sounds kinda odd, but the dynamic people have in romantic relationships is far more jarring since they are created organically as opposed to familial relationships which come naturally.
I'm always dragging that horse around...
I've also heard that social rejection from anybody can be as painful as breaking an arm or a leg. The pain of rejection triggers that same part of your brain as if you've just broken a limb. Basically, a broken heart does hurt. You may not be in a cast but it still hurts just as much.
shareBreaking a limb?? I would equate it more to having a machete threaded down your throat and out your other end.
shareI felt bad for her too because it had been 10 years of on again off again and that must have been exhausting. But her reaction just seemed like too, too much. Even for her. It was just so corny and those three little things took me out of "Man he is such a dick! I hate him as much as she does right now!"
Don't puke in the punch and tell me it's alphabet soup.
Do you not have a heart? Her reaction was completely justified, there was nothing wrong with it. And everyone falls into temporary depression (laying on the bed like that) after experiencing something like that. At one point she even mentions that she feels nothing. That sort of emptiness is a classic sign.
shareLol i know, ffs woman he just stood you up. Horrible yes but stop acting as though he tried to kill you or something!
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He broke her heart. And humiliated her.
He was the melodramatic insecure child. Not everyone is able to rebound as if they're 12 and go back to their shallow lives and hop into someone else's bed. A little rage and depression seemed pretty normal under her circumstances.
I'm a seeker too. But my dreams aren't like yours...
Coming from someone who's been there, she wasn't being melodramatic. Asking several days after something like that if you'll ever laugh again isn't irrational. I was still asking myself that same question 3 months later.
sharesorry you had to go through that..and your name Lizzifer is funny :0
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I was once told losing someone you love to death doesn't hurt as much than breaking up with someone you love because the person who died didn't chose to leave you where as in a break up they actually chose to live without you
shareAnd for it to happen so publicly. Carrie was proud on being part of the "In" crowd of her City and for that City to be as socially aware, and IMO celebrity obsessed as New York, the hurt and humiliation would be unbearable. And published in Vogue, no less! My guess is the OP is either trolling or is very young.
shareNo, I'm not a troll. I am young and I understand your implication is that I am dumb and inexperienced but it doesn't make sense as a criticism. Ever. But especially not in this case. It is young women who would behave the way Carrie did. Everything is such a huge deal and the worst thing ever! so according to what you're nearly saying, I should be totally behind her freakout. But I'm not. I could understand if Carrie was 20 and acting that way. But she was 42 and had been disappointed by Big (and many other men) several times before. It is for those reasons that what happened did not warrant that reaction.
Don't puke in the punch and tell me it's alphabet soup.
Carrie's reaction is totally warranted. Even if it was an off again, on again relationship for 10 years, being stood up at the alter is probably the worst feeling in the world. You are making the commitment to be there,wanting to spend your life with that person. So you do feel like it's death, 10 years of an emotional roller coaster will make a person exhausted. OP I don't think you fully comprehend the sheer pain of losing the one you love from choice.
shareI don't comprehend a woman in her 40s behaving like she is a teenager. To be fair, this is Carrie. In may ways, she is a teenager. So maybe I am wrong because I am judging her reaction as if she was a normal person because a normal person, after being hurt several times by the same man, wouldn't be stupid enough to ever think that it's for real this time. She wouldn't be so crushed because she would have seen it coming a mile away. From anybody else, it wasn't warranted. From over the top, hysterical, immature, never learns her lesson Carrie, yeah, I guess it made total sense.
Don't puke in the punch and tell me it's alphabet soup.
She was hurt because she thought she was finally going to get her happily ever after with the man she loved. The man flew to Paris to get her! But he got cold feet and changed his mind? This shattered her because as I said, she thought she was going to live happily ever after with him.
No matter how many times they broke up, got back together only to break up again the one constant thing was that they loved each other.
I was irritated that she didn't take his feelings into consideration during the wedding planning. They agreed small wedding, she went and made it huge. He even asked her "How do you think this makes me look?"
You're not only young, your ignorant. Don't get me wrong, we all were once so don't take offense. However, if you knew what losing someone you have loved and idolized and chased for a DECADE felt like----you WOULD understand. And WGN you are 42, you may think now that you would brush it off because of your age but trust me, age does not matter when it comes to loss. Also you mentioned that she was screwed over a lot by him so you think she should be numb to it because of that?!?! Oh my.... You are naive. If anything, it makes it worse.
shareIt was typical big. I felt horrible for Carrie. It was her first wedding, and i dont think she was being selfish, but she is the typical new yorker, and fashion and works for Vogue. So of course it was going to be "Big" .. but she should have went with her gut. She bought a vintage dress. The proposal was casual.
It didnt help that Miranda has always been jealous of Carrie and although not deliberately, she ruined Carries life for a brief moment. I dont understand why Big always did that to Carrie. Its a movie, but it was crazy that he got scared.
That's BS. Breaking up sucks. Death sucks. You cannot compare subjective experiences. Although there is science behind love, everyone is different. Every relationship is different. Nevermind that the life-experiences leading up to whatever event can and will affect your reaction. It's sooooo complicated. Honestly, people that make these analogies make me wonder.
shareI'm surprised that it never occurred to her then that Big REALLY hadn't wanted a splashy wedding. Not to mention that getting around NYC in a stretch limo can be a beyotch.
Get me a bromide! And put some gin in it!
To be honest, the way Carrie reacted to that and many other things in the movie are waaay more mature and grown-up than it was during the whole of the series. I'm a big fan of the series and watched all the episodes many times and I think Carrie looks more grown-up in the movie than she has ever looked. Not to get out of bed for some time and being fed by other people is completely normal after such a traumatic event and I think they nailed that with that reaction. Hell, if I remember correctly, even Aidan didn't get out of bed for ONE MONTH after Carrie broke up with him and Steve had to bring him fried chicken lol.
shareI found myself in bed for a few days after a break-up... Twice. I don't think her reaction was over the top, but I do find some of the scenes were over acted.
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I was engaged in my 20's, and had to cancel wedding plans mid-planning. The timing was very off, and reality set in. Doubt also crept in, and six months later we broke up. I couldn't sit in bed all day, but I wished I could have. I though forced myself out of bed with the "fake it until you make it" motto.
The person I found melodramatic in the movie was Big, it grates every time. Everything is *always* all about him. This was Carrie's first marriage, why shouldn't she and her friends do a big, special celebration? She has to get married in the shadows, just cause he messed up his two previous marriages? Then he waits until moments before a publicly-announced, NY society wedding to pull his typical commitment-phobe sh*t. Seriously?? The day is mostly about the bride anyway. Grow a pair, get out of the car and get on with it! Deal with the fallout later, which I bet there would have been none. Ugh..nothing but a crybaby.
This was Carrie's first marriage, why shouldn't she and her friends do a big, special celebration? She has to get married in the shadows, just cause he messed up his two previous marriages?That bothered me too. "This is my third wedding, Carrie!" So what? It is the bride's day. Nobody cares about you, pal!
It's actually is the bride's day.
shareYou got a good point.
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