Did they split up? What happened there?
I'm 30 minutes into episode 2 and he seems to have just ditched her!
Never spelled out (typical Wallander), but I took it that she left in episode 1, and is not coming back. Vaguely alluded to in Episode 2 when he's talking with the cop from Riga at his own place, that Kurt is alone. He mentions "isn't it obvious I don't have a wife".
shareI'm 30 minutes into episode 2 and he seems to have just ditched her!
I'm glad he kept his dog though, Jussi is adorable :)
shareI agree, sandy, any woman who could put up with him would be crazy, especially with a young son. A dour depressed man who can't even call her when away for two days is best not being around anyone especially a child. This just didn't seem realistic to me at all, from a woman's standpoint. Maybe a young girl would put up with it, but not a woman of her age.
I don't know why they had to make him so depressed and sad. Usually on a police force when the job gets to someone that much they put them on leave and send them for counseling. I have known several detectives in my area personally.
Whenever I get done watching one of these episodes, especially the S3 E1, I come away depressed myself. The scenery is depressing, his clothes, the characters around them, etc. There is usually some moments of levity in police work or no one would last quite honestly. Usually they burn out way before the age Wallendar is supposed to be. It isn't realistic in that I doubt there is that much grotesque murdering going on in rural Sweden.
Next episode is set in Latvia, another depressing place, so I think I will skip it and wait for one of my favorite actors, Branaugh, to appear in something more light hearted.
"Sometimes you have to know when to put a cork in it."
~Frasier
and women expect men to tolerate their hormonaly driven episodes with a smile, no matter how insane they get which in my experience is pretty darn insane. why any man would put up with a woman during certain times is beyond me, we should just leave and let them fend for themselves
shareThis seems to be quite the generalization about what women need and want:
agree, sandy, any woman who could put up with him would be crazy, especially with a young son. A dour depressed man who can't even call her when away for two days is best not being around anyone especially a child. This just didn't seem realistic to me at all, from a woman's standpoint. Maybe a young girl would put up with it, but not a woman of her age.
So you don't think it's normal to call the person you are in a relationship with and tell them when you are going to be gone for days? How on earth is it clingy to expect the person that supposedly loves you and you are in a relationship with to let you know if they are going to be going away? And there is middle ground between someone that is depressed and someone that is a posturing macho man. It's not either or.
shareI'm not sure why you seem so upset by my answer! Perhaps you either skipped this part or didn't get what I meant. However, I thought I was fairly clear. Let's try again:
If a woman is so insecure that she needs a man to call her after two days and always be cheerful, especially in HIS line of work, then she's unrealistic and also far too clingy for a guy like Wallander. Yes, he's depressed much of the time, but sometimes quite gentle and introspective. I find that quality attractive, rather than the posturing macho man, or the sycophant who sucks up to a woman, or the slap-happy type. But that's me; there is no ONE "right" sort of man (or woman) in a relationship.
They didn't spell it out, but ya, they split up.
They had her mention that she still kept her old flat in Ystad during ep1. As the episode progressed, you could see them drift apart and it ended in the therapy session which Wallander commented on by saying that he'd tried that with his first wife - before the divorce.
Then by episode 2 it's obvious she moved out of the house as he mentioned to the Latvian cop.
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They DID spell it out for anyone who was paying attention. She and Wallander were trying counseling, and after innumerable seesions, during the last one shown he just says Look, I get affected and upset and depressed and withdrawn by my work and that's how it is and it's not going to stop. Maybe I'm not fit for a relationship.
And then after that they show them walking out of the shrink's building and he says to her that that's the same counselor he and his ex-wife used ... (but they ended up getting divorced). Conclusion: This relationship is doomed/over as well.
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The end of episode 3:1 shows them going to counseling and he admits that he is who he is and can't change and it would take an incredible amount of patience to live with him, more than anyone is likely to have...the implication being that she leaves with her son after growing weary of his neglect...Vanja also said, in the same episode that she kept her flat in town. So, presumably that is where they went.
shareThe only thing that surprises me is that Vanja (or any woman) stayed with Wallander for so long. He is a smart guy who feels deeply (and he looks like Kenneth Branagh), but, as this episode makes clear, Wallander the cop is not much good in a relationship, and Vanja said that they'd been together for two years before they bought the house in the country.
shareThat's what confused me. You're with the guy for TWO years and you're JUST NOW figuring out his demeanor and his job is his life? Seriously? Or did he take two years off the force? Or did he only see her once a week or only on his "good" days? Really?
shareMaybe it is supposed to be two years since a nightmare case like this one ? In the meantime he's being picking up the odd shop lifter and drunk driver. He must do some boring work as at the beginning of the previous episode he is watching for stolen cars at the docks and gets fed up with it. I always wonder in these detective shows how long is meant to pass between cases.
shareWas she the one living with him when the body was dug up in the yard of their house?
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