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As a once bullied girl

posted 12 years ago by lilyflowersd
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being so obssessed with getting an apology the way Marnie did it? Besides it wasn't even a real apology in the end. She was only sorry she got caught.

That not only shows desperation on her part but it means she is also stuck on her teens years in High School while Joanna clearly didn't want to be reminded of it. I think she should have at least try to talk to the present Joanna, be cordial and see where it goes without reminding her of how nasty she was to her in HS. If by then Joanna would have been still mean suddenly, then that's when she have the rights to be upset and take action. Marnie wasn't even trying to get along from the start. She was all about the past and ''No I have to get an apology from her''.

I had similar things happened to me from grades 8th till 11th by 3 Joanna types. I was excorted out of pep-rallies several times but I was never freaky on going all my way demanding an apology. Two of them requested me on facebook and we're already 26 by now. They also invited to some of their social gathering and the fact that they're now older, mature and treat me and others good now is already an apology to me. That's enough. But to go on saying ''Hey I wanted a real apology and I deserved one'' sounds like the words of a hurt little child, not of a professional woman.

And once again this is coming from a bullied girl. I think as long as it wasn't as severely as setting your cat on fire, beating you to a pulp or anything of that nature... then you must learn to deal with it and come to terms already even if that means not getting an apology. Many have experienced bullied (some more, some less) but it seems like we're living in a society where you're made to apologize for every sinlge little unfair treatment you did to someone.

[–] lilyflowersd 12 years ago

Have to add up that if one of them were to apologize, my response would be something like this:
Girl, why are you apologizing? That was so long ago already.

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[–] Ailec1987 11 years ago

Yeah, well, I DEMAND MY apology! And when I get it, I will say, "What took you so goddman long?????????"

It wouldn't be a true and real apology if you have to demand one. That should come from the person willing to give it to you without reminding them of it.

If I truly had to force one of my former middle school verbal/emotional bullies to apologize, go through such fiasco to get an ''I'm sorry'' then it wouldn't be worth my time.

[–] bkerber 8 years ago

I was bullied for years as well. I am 47 now and I think if I did have to spend time with one of the people who bullied me, I would find that difficult and would need to say something about it - particularly if they didn't remember me or acted like they didn't. But I don't think I would be angry about it or demand an apology. I would just want to acknowledge that that happened. I was a complete mess when I was a teenager and I think those girls were too. What they did is not okay at all but I would guess that they have all grown up and are probably very much embarrassed and sorry about the way they behaved too.

[–] Drusilla (546) 3 years ago

She did try and ended up with a Moo necklace. I was on your end myself. And I was definitely on Marnie's side. She put up with that for years. Then when she tried to talk to people about it nobody acknowledged it. She then did what she had to (albeit at the wrong time). But giving her the necklace at the wrong time was not a great idea either. Joanna is worse in my opinion. She got what she put in. And it wasn't pretty.