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If people don't want to talk about certain subjects they may feel uncomfortable with, do they have to?


Hi folks.

Now, I understand of course that indifference is not an option and that ignoring a problem isn't going to make it go away. I also understand that people are, and can be, different and some people react to certain matters differently than others. And there will always be disagreements, arguments, controversies, outrages, differences of opinion and handling of certain situations and that is simply a fact of life. However, I was also wondering...

If people don't want to talk about certain subjects as opposed to WANTING to and doing so because its necessary and right, however (and understandably) uncomfortable it might be, do they have a right to do so?

I have read at times online people say stuff like "[Insert a particularly sensitive subject] people should not simply believe and act like this doesn't exist", and OK fair enough, but what if people just can't help it? Also, what if people do NOT necessarily think that "it doesn't exist" but just want to avoid it because for them it may be taboo, does that make them wrong and also culpable and blameworthy etc? Why not just blame the perpetrators in certain offenses or people who said/did something wrong etc, and also, why do such nuances and distinctions exist in SOME matters but not in OTHERS that may ALSO be considered wrong, hurtful and/or even ILLEGAL by law definition-wise, and also immoral under say dictionary definition? And what about some people who are NOT say bigoted and prejudiced but just not entirely AWARE of certain issues etc. Heck, what about some people who think, and not necessarily in bad faith but incorrectly, in ways that are more OPTIMISTIC and hopeful rather than just expressing anger and outrage?

I also notice that indeed, we, in humanity, often look at many different issues, including wrong ones, DIFFERENTLY and that even murder, for example, is looked at differently than some issues. Indeed, certain matters we are sensitive to and fear more, and sadly, there are opposite extremes and whatnot.

But yeah, if someone doesn't feel like talking about something and doing so directly, is that alright or do we have to prove them wrong? Thank you.

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In general, no, there is too much extraneous confrontation in society these days.
However, they are sometimes over-rising issues that need to be brought up, the Emperor's New Clothes for example. There are failings of the human mind that can be predicted and manipulated, so sometimes there can be reasons for trying to press someone on an issue. Like Donald Trump for instance ... he should have been confronted a lot more on his lies and lying.

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Pet Shop Boys once had a song called "To Speak Is a Sin", from their 1993 album "Very".

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No, you have the right to remain silent

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The thing is though, on the internet, people, at least, tend to highly ENCOURAGE people to talk about such things and not to simply "close their eyes to world's common injustices", but, again, if a person doesn't want to, is that alright?

What I mean is - it doesn't make them bad, does it?

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And what if, for instance, people say don't go out to protest and march for those things and don't spend time on the internet getting involved in such discussions, is that also alright?

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On another side note. I have noticed that on the internet, people are often heavily divided and one person often turns out to be a compassionate, righteous and articulate expert on the issue and the other someone who doesn't know about it and often picks the cowardly way out and shows that they don't know anything on the subject. BUT, NEITHER can just simply "stay in the middle" or act as a "distant observer", which means such subject really IS capable of affecting some.

And even though it often IS true, however unfortunately, that not all people find similar bad things "equally unacceptable" for instance, in today's age of digital technology, there will be no shortage of people who will point it out very angrily. But would THAT necessarily make the people on the other side think let alone change their mind?

Also, are there really a lot of people who find certain bad things that are unacceptable in their own minds "acceptable"? But - can't we just try and ignore or dismiss them and learn how to not be affected by their toxic personality and position?

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