How would you honestly react if daughter or son planned to marry someone of a different race?
shareI don't have children, but both my sisters have been in serious, long-term interracial relationships (I have a niece to prove it). Their partners have been around since I was three or four, so it's really nothing to me. As long as they're happy together, that's what matters.
"Love's not about what you expect to get, only what you expect to give- which is everything."
I don't have children either, but I am getting married and my fiance and I have talked about things like this. (I know, weird topic, but it came up somehow...) I certainly wouldn't mind, any more than I would turn my child away if he or she turned out to be homosexual. I feel so bad that there are still people around who think things like this matter. It's even a bit taboo at times for people my age, college aged, to be in inter-racial relationships, and I just don't get it!
Your husband has demanded that we sleep together.
I don't have children, but I can tell you how my parents would've reacted.
Not even if Hell freezes over. Not even if it got cold in the Tropics. Of course many black people are nice, but you don't date one, you don't marry one. That's it.
I have relatives who married Catholics (and converted) and that in of itself, have caused very bitter riffs and anti-Catholic sentiments in the family over the years. 'Nough said.
My parents (well my father anyway) would be spinning in the grave if he knew I was Catholic.
Of course many black people are nice, but you don't date one, you don't marry one.
Date one? Black people aren't items you know
No one dies a virgin, Life screws us all
One can be a pronoun referring to people; I don't see why you think it's limited to objects. It's not like the poster said "it."
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I'd want to know about it so I could help them prepare for society if they decide to marry. I don't vehemently oppose interracial relationships, I just don't advise them because this country has racial attitudes, privileges, wounds, etc., that have yet to be corrected. Trying to merge two cultures can be difficult and will ultimately result in the abandonment of one or the other. Secondly, the children born of the relationships are put in a position to choose / decide who they really are (am I black or white or both?). Also, I believe they will endure a degree of acceptance from both sides of their families whether they want to or not.
At this point, I really don't believe people when they say they don't see color; nonsense, we're only human and we DO see color when we meet people. If this were a country where everyone was the same ethnicity, we wouldn't have conversations as such. I know I sound pessimistic, but it is the nature of the beast called America. Not to say we can't work toward it, I just won't hold my breath hoping for a racial utopia.
I'm not married and I have no children, but race really doesn't matter to me. My family is white. I do have cousins who are hispanic. I have a cousin who is married to a woman who has a daughter who is African American. In my eyes I just see my family. I don't look at any of them and say, he's mexican or she's black. I did ask my folks if I were to bring someone home (who wasn't white) and announce that I was marrying them what they would think. They both said, why would we care. If you loved him and he loved you and he treated you right that's all that matters to us.
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On one hand I would hope I wouldn't 'feel' either way on the race issue.
On the other though I couldn't help but feel happy, pleased and proud that I had brought them up well.
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Doesn't matter to me, since I've dated people from other races. If anything, I'd be a little concerned if my kids (I have none) just met someone and decided to get married. Haha. Geez. My mom wouldn't be upset at all since her grandfather was Puerto Rican and in an interracial relationship. Don't know about my dad, but I can't see him objecting to anything like that.
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In my family if the guy is not Irish forget it, no other ethnic, racial, group will do.
shareIt wa not an issue for me. I married a Black man and we had 3 children. Our sons married Hispanic women and our daughter is in a relationship with a Caucasian man. The grands are the United Nations. One daughter-in-law also has Chinese about 5 generations ago and the other one has Apache. Race is definitely not an issue. The same goes for my bio-parents sides. Both are also mixed up racially and no one cares. That is my bio family. In my adoptive family it is a different matter altogether. My mother would not even let us get married at our home church. I was 22 then and went ahead anyway. The kids know this. I told them it didn't matter who they brought home that person would fit in. My first husband and I did get divorced and I married a white man. Race had nothing and everything to do with the divorce. He just had a lousy chip-on-his-shoulder attitude about race that got stronger over the 14 years we were together.He also had an attitude that he was the king,ruler,whatever, and I was the trophy and total slave to him. He was extremely controlling and gave divorced men a bad name in all his attitude and beliefs.He also could imagine someone being racist to him and absolutely nothing even remotely racist being evedent.
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