I was pretty young when I first saw this scene,and I think it was the first time I felt a bit strange...you know!!!
Joe was definately a gorgeous guy, Wynona Ryder I don't care about, but it got pretty steamy up there!
Damned drowning kid!!! Did you like it or is it just another sex scene to you?
"...we need to concentrate on more that meets the eye....you're the truth, not I..."
I’m not sure hot is how I would describe it. When I first saw it I was much younger so Ryder did seem hot looking, but now that I am older I can see the legitimate concerns about the age difference. Anyway, what I recall from when I was younger and looking at her as a girl my age was that it seemed a bit like even without the drowning or the age gap her first time was not exactly something most girls would want.
I don’t recall a great deal of foreplay happening (ie getting her ready, aroused, lubricated and loosened up). What I recall was that as soon as he appeared to get her panties off and have access he penetrated. This in itself tends not to be a good way to deflower a virgin, but furthermore, instead of maintaining communication and easing in very slowly, checking if she was OK, he just seemed to thrust the whole thing in rather urgently. I doubt he was intentionally trying to be rough, but she was a virgin which meant that she would be tight and there would most likely be a hymen in the way. Furthermore even after the initial penetration, he started thrusting right away instead of stopping to first ensure she was ok. This is why I took her initial reaction to the penetration as one of pain (although some have argued that she cried out in ecstasy but I interpreted it differently) after which she seemed to be trying to relax as she was still in some discomfort.
So even if one were to ignore the glaring ethical implications of the age difference, he was clumsily inconsiderate and her first time was needlessly unpleasant due to a lack of gentleness on his part.