I hate the daughter

everyone deals with things differently. She was obviously kind enough to give him a second chance cos she believed that he would stick to his word this time, but she wasn't aware that it really was a genuine mistake and he was really looking forward to the dinner but he made a careless mistake and shouldn't have gone out. Surely you can see why she exploded like that, because from her point of view, it was just her neglectful father not caring enough to remember an important dinner date. For all she knew, he was just doing what he does every other day of his miserable life so he would be expected to remember something this important. But she didnt know that alcohol and a big night out was to blame

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I get the feeling it was like his 150th chance over the years, not just what we see during the course of the movie. She made it very clear that he has been disappointing her for her entire life. Sorry, but some people don't deserve to be parents when it's convenient for them (he's lonely). Where was he all the years when he wasn't so lonely?

I am in the same situation she's in. My father is getting older and is lonely, and now wants to make me part of his life.. however, he still doesn't try very hard at it. He should have known it was a better idea not to go out at all, and make sure he was there. To me, I'd write it off too. By that point at that age, you are pretty indifferent to that person. I am the same with my dad. He's an alcoholic, and missing the one time is just another time he missed out on what he promised. Like another poster said- its not suppose to be about their time. You're the child, they're the parent. They need to act it.

As far as how upset she got, she was upset because she got her hopes way up. All of us girls want to be daddy's girl, especially because im guessing her mom might have passed away? We never hear about her mom. That plays an important role..

And its NOT her fault about anything that happened to him! So, if she asked him to her birthday and didnt show up and she slits her wrists and commits suicide, would you apply that to he is DIRECTLY at fault for her death? He never gave a rats ass about her before. He didnt give her what she needed, and thats how parenting works. Children are not suppose to supply the parents with the needs of the parents. He made his bed, now he has to lie in it. He tried to turn his life around, but not very hard, imho. He just gave up. Again, not her fault.

"I can't be let off the hook because I might just get the notion that it's ok to keep running"

Excuse me, but I kind of got the impression that this wasn't his 'second' chance, but probably more like his 15th chance. And he had blown it many times in the past, and she STILL gave him one more try. And he blew it again.

She has every right to kick his ass to the curb. He's never going to change...

This post is kind of common with IMDB as it's not about the movie, it's about the poster. It's like a rorscharch test where they show you an inkblot and they see what you're answer is. Clown sees a man whose a totally failure in his personal life, and has well past peaking in his professional life, destroy his chance to have a relationship with his daughter and his first reaction is she should get over it. I think is the time of person who has really bad breakups, with his ex girlfriends using him as an example of the biggest a##hole they've ever dated.

Randy walked out on his family. I'm guessing you didn't understand that, he abandoned his family. And I'm guessing his wife wasn't indepently wealthy. So all of a sudden Stephanie sees her father, an adult who is supposed to act like one, walk out on her. And now mom is scrambling to get a job and make ends meet, while still dealing with things like birthday partiers, cloth shopping, and school.

And he didn't make a 'genuine effort to repair the relationship". He felt lonely because he had noone in his life who really cared for him. The closest was the wrestling fans who enjoyed his matching, but nobody that cared for the real person. So he goes to his daughter and takes her out one time and make amends. Then the day he's supposed to met her for dinner he goes out, gets drunks, sleeps with a crazy woman who has a fireman fetish, and misses dinner with his daughter. It wasn't a one time thing, it was the latest in a lifetime of his failing his daughter, after she was willing to forgive him. She realized he hadn't really changed, he will always disappoint her. She was disposible to him. Sleeping with the chick, and one time one night stand, was more important then having dinner with his daughter.

Randy was pathetic. He's sympathetic because we see, on some level, he doesn't know any better. The character isn't evil, or malicious, just mentally stunted, and will keep screwing things up because that's all he's ever done.

believe your parents deserve second chances

I agree I hated the daughter too... maybe because I have a bleeding heart, but I just felt the fact that he even came to her house right after he realized he slept through it showed he really cared... I mean he was making strides... she knows he's a deadbeat... she should expect him to be a bit flakey... at this point she should be able to realize he never is going to be father of the year, but he is probably going to die soon and you don't have to have a terrific relationship... but you don't have to tell him "I never want to see you again, I hate you, and throwing things at him for standing you up at Applebees. Again I feel I would be disappointed... I would be sad... I would be angry too... but that blowup was unnecessary.... Ever think about maybe talking to him... figuring out why he is so screwed up and trying to help him? I know it's not fair... kids shouldn't take care of their parents... but when you're well and someone you know is sick.... sometimes you can reverse the roles and go out on a limb to help them.

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