Why would guys like this get married?

I thought they explain this pretty well for most of the characters:

Phillip - He has no money and gets married to Vicki who's father is loaded.

Chris - He seems as if he really wants to fall in love with someone, and just fell out of love with his wife. He cheated on which is obviously wrong but was looking to tell her about it and get a divorce.

Marty- He seems to be insecure, which is why he got married to the first person who probably showed attention to him. The San Diego chick is the only girl he cheated on her with, even though he talks about screwing girls all the time. A perfect example in San Diego, he gets pissed Vincent is talking to the fat chick, but then quickly flirts with her because she is interested in him.

Luke - He was faithful to his wife, and obviously had mental problems. His wife also doesn't seem to be stable as well.

Vincent - He was the character they didn't explain this too well with, as he got the most action of the five of them. It seems he got a wife for the purpose of his job, someone to bring along to his events.

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I think it's entirely different. U wouldnt do something to your wife, but some random bitch it's all allowed. Also wifes dont do everything u want or you never open. No one fully opens to someone they know. U only do that to people u dont know because u dont care what they think.

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Because he wants to have his cake and eat it, too.
Because he was in love with her. Once. And doesn't want to break her heart or is in the process of looking for another girl before he does risk it.
Because he wants to keep all of his assets. ("He's living in the condo alone now. That's just about all she let him keep.")
Because he's in politics or another job where image is important. (Selling condos, for example.)

Few random, varying scumbag reasons. There's is no valid justification for leading another person on; male or female. If you want to mess around, find someone who wants an open relationship. I find it funny how obsessive and jealous some get when YOU start looking at other people!

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Because marriage isn't just about sex. It's about partnership, companionship, wealth building, child bearing, etc. These men want those things from the woman they marry. They want fun, excitement, and sex from someone else.

It's sad that we've made marriage about sex and monogamy.

Don't you have certain friends that you prefer for different activities? I have a friend I like to go to movies and shopping with but she makes a lousy dinner date and she knows it. So when I go to dinner with my other friend, am I cheating on my movie friend?

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Why would WOMEN get married when we all know men are pigs and will cheat eventually. Wise up girls, otherwise it's on YOU!

There are no men who won't cheat, only who can't cheat, ha ha ha

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You would be surprised. An alarming number of people, men and women, when asked why they got married, reply "not to be alone".

Those guys are just the same. They're hypocrites because they don't want their wives to cheat on them, just because they don't want to lose them. They like their routine, having someone to come home to, and someone who takes care of them. They can indulge in their immature little boy side with their wives.

It's pathetic and dishonest, yes, but it's not surprising.

For every lie I unlearn I learn something new - Ani Difranco

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I know a lot of guys who screw around outside of marriage... but they still love their wives. Sex is sex... and shouldn't be confused with love. I am not saying cheating is good, because I hate it, but it is a reality women should except. Obviously not all men are like this, but a good number are, and perhaps are the majority, unfortunately.



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Women and men, are NOT naturally monogamous.

Apparently, very few marriages are monogamous relationships. Most spouses have had multiple pre-marital lovers. Some people enter marriage knowing they will continue to have multiple lovers and the partners find happiness in this agreement. (Open marriage or polyamory, for example.)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shere_Hite#Notable_works

However, "cheating" is not reflective of a lack of monogamy, it's reflective of criminal mindedness. Violating the rights of others to get what you want is what separates the limited criminal mind from the empowered, intelligent mind.

A cheater steals the choices of their spouse through deception, because if they asked their partner if they would agree to opening up the relationship to new sexual partners, they assume the answer would be, "No." Or, for some, an even worse answer is, "Yes, I've been wanting to expand my sexuality, too!"

The respectful, fair, trustworthy and protective nature of that conversation displays an intimacy and capacity for love which is markedly absent in the cheater. So, I think your question:

Why would guys like this get married?

is more about the expectation that a myth be real or even, reality-based. Equating marriage with monogamy is like comparing a whole pot of soup to one carrot.

Monogamy happens between monogamous people, regardless of marital status.

I think many people believe either that they can stifle their natures - "settle down into marriage" and then they discover that marriage has no actual affect on their natural sexuality. How they react to this self-knowledge separates the criminal-minded from the true love types. The lovers will have a conversation. The criminals will revert to lying and cheating. The worst of those criminals will blame the spouse for their own dissatisfaction and willfully use sexual humiliation and betrayal as a weapon.

No one should ever marry until after they have researched and understood the origins and purpose of marriage and what the traditions and symbols represent. Bottom line, it's about inheritance, women's status as property and alliances of power. Marriage has absolutely nothing to do with the measure of love, commitment or sexuality... those things exist in relationships... no wedding required.

~ "Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined." Toni Morrison/Beloved ~

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