I’ve read that it’s an anti-man wokefest

No don't skip it over that, in the context of the movie it is very small. Watch it and maybe you will enjoy it. I did and was only slightly disappointed in the movie but for popcorn entertainment its ok. 5/10

If it hasn't been a problem for Tony Stark to have the Iron Man suit for the last 10 years without anyone else having access to it, then I don't see why it would be a problem for Melina to have mind control technology without anyone else having it.

Spoilers ******. I did see the movie last night. I give it a B. As you can imagine with a movie about female assassins assembled by a male villain, there were some metaphorical parts about women being controlled by “the patriarchy” or whatever. When the girls were set free by black widow she kept saying a line about how they were now able to go “make [their] own choices.” This seemed a weird way of highlighting the principal benefit of their new freedom and sounded like the writers were channeling the pro choice movement (especially since they girls had just been released from control of the repulsive male villain). There were some other symbolic references to female reproductive agency. There was a lengthy exchange about how the girls had their reproductive organs surgically removed; all had to get hysterectomies / oophorectomies. It was a very strange and graphic back-and-forth about the details of that surgery but while the characters were joking around about it which seemed completely off key. Otherwise, I didn’t see obvious misandry. There were positive and negative portrayals of men and women. The women were mostly fighting other women so, you didn’t have too much of the trope where some petite woman overpowers the 200 lbs adult man. I’ve seen people say the father figure was presented as a moron but, I didn’t get that whatsoever. He was humorous relief and presented as a strong male who primarily endeavored to protect his “wife” and “daughters” and encourage them to be a family. There was another resourceful masculine character who repeatedly helped the main two female characters. Frankly, what I noticed more than anything was that Scarlett Johansson was upstaged by Florence Pugh who played her sister. Pugh was absolutely fantastic and really entertaining in the movie. Honestly, she tore up every scene she was in.