What's your real life romance story?

Very interesting questions, not sure that I can answer all of them but I will try.
1) I disliked my husband when I first met him so I feel like we would be like a Cary Grant/Rosalind Russell or Katherine Hepburn movie.

2) Yes, I do believe in both. Or something like it. Love at first site or maybe lust all I know is I looked at this guy one time and my knees almost gave out. Soulmates-my husband is mine. I have never felt the way I have for him with anyone. I can totally be myself, he gets me and loves me. In fact he mentioned it before I ever did about 4 months after we started dating.

3) I like romance films because it makes me believe that that kind of love can happen to me. Also, if a couple overcomes a lot of obstacles to be together then that makes you feel that love can truly conquer anything.

4) Do you mean on my end or his? I have settled for someone who claimed he didn't feel the same for me as I did for him. But 10 years later we are still together, married and I don't think that we could be without each other.

5) Well, as I stated previously, in movies, yes. In real life sometimes love just isn't enough as much as you want it to be it can't be more than someone beating the crap out of you.

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First of all.great thread really interesting topic second lol

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?
I really am not sure maybe we are a movie yet to be made lol I am a bit of a princess but caring and loving and he is a computer geek (but a really cute one) we met ten years ago when I was 15 and we were working together and have been together ever since now been married for fiv years.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?
Yes I do believe in Soulmates maybe because I have found mine lol and as for love at first site I do believe in it, I believe there is a connection the very first instant you meet someone but that alot of people tend not to see it as LAFS

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?
Everyone likes to feel good and I know I personally dont like to watch movies to be bummed out (real life does that enough for me lol)so romantic comedies rock my world

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage?
nope, if you are not head over heels in love with someone dont marry them, of course I am aware that because I am in that state lol I am a little biased.

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?
Yes, love can transcend(sp?) time and space and I know I feel as long as I am loved I can conquer anything

I just want to say: over the years, I have come to regard you as ... people I met.

Very interesting! Let´s see...

1)If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why? To me, a perfect romantic movie is boy meets girl, fall in love, live happily ever after, so bearing that in mind, and despite my love for "the English Patient", I would chose "While you were sleeping", or "The holiday" (Kate Winslet part! I can't identify with Cameron Diaz).

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why? Yes, I do. I always hoped they would exist and trusted there was someone there who would be just right for me... and I found him 20 months ago. And we have been married for 15 months already!

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor? Because they give hope. They make you feel that maybe, one day not too far away the same thing might happen to you. And as Barbara Streissand says in "the mirror has 2 faces", being in love feels f.. great..

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage? Well, I think there has to be some head over heels at least at the beginning of the relationship! I got married feeling absolutely in love with my husband, and frankly speaking I don´t think I would have gotten married if I hadn´t felt that way. I think that feeling that way gives you at least a good start!

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not? I believe it can conquer almost anything, but love also has to be taken care of, or it can fade away pretty easily.

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?
One of the love stories that impressed me most is Could Mountain ... just heartbreaking! But as such not really what you wish for your own life, for sure – then I would definitely want to change the ending (I absolutely loved it though in book and film). But with regard to the feelings they had for each other it would be just the thing to wish for.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?
I don’t believe in love at first sight, because love is always something that has to grow and has to face difficulties. But I do believe in falling in love at first sight. And soul mates? Definitely yes. You can feel this especially with friends you didn’t see for ages and then, when you meet again, it’s just like yesterday. So sole mates don’t have to be your lovers.

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?
There are two different situations: when I long for a romantic drama and when I feel like seeing a romance with happy end.
My job is really head-based and so often in the evenings I just don’t want to think anymore, don’t want to trouble myself anymore with heavy things that happen in the world. So in this situations I just love to watch a funny, light movie with some confusion in it to cheer me up (especially period love stories à la Jane Austen).
The other situation is when I really had a bad day, don’t feel well, a little depressed maybe. Then I just long for a sad film with a lot of tragedy because I just can feel it in this moment so good and I can cry for the heroes and for myself all the same time.

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage?
It’s just an illusion to believe that being head over heels in love is something to last, and this illusion costs every day a lot of relationships because everybody seems to be in constant search for the everlasting love-kick. It may exist – but that’s the exception. So as I don’t believe in it but will marry my fiancée one day: yes, I would settle for something “less” than that. But what is less and what is more?

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?
I’m sure love can conquer anything. But this “anything” don’t has to be restrictions and obstacles thrown in your way from outside, big issues like the ones you can see in films. I think the biggest enemy to conquer is just everyday life. I’m a very pragmatic thinker: For me, love is something you have to negotiate with yourself and your partner every day anew. Sure you are together and love each other because of something, but you are as well together and loving instead of something. So love is a constant process of decision for me, and someone who runs away at the first sight of something he’s not pleased in the relationship, someone who’s searching for the everlasting butterflies is running the risk never to conquer anything with love – because there just isn’t enough of it.

Nice questions!
I'll try to answer, but I'm not that good at English.

1)

I would choose Lost In Translation, because I think the most romantic time you have when you are in love, is the time before the first kiss - and in Lost In Translation this romantic feeling fills the entire movie.
Also, their chemistry is just so nice. They have funny moments, serious moments, embarassing moments a.s.o.
At the end I have to say, that I've got a weakness for impossible love.


2)

No, I don't believe in 'love at first sight', but I do believe in 'falling in love at first sight'. I don't think it's possible to feel love for someone that you don't know anything about. I can only be a falling-in-love-feeling.
Yes or no, I can't answer weither I believe in soul mates or not. But if I do, I believe there's more than one. I think you can go through life with different people and still find the greatest happiness.


3)

Well, I guess it gives me some hope. That a great romance some day will happen to me. Also, I enjoy watching chemistry grow, imtimacy, understanding. It's beautiful.


4)

I guess I would. Like if you have known a guy for many years and he is your best friend - suddenly you realize you are in love with him. Then I don't think you will ever get the feeling of being head over heels in love, but you will for sure love him. And that is of cause worth a realtionship/marriage.


5)

I don't think so, and I'll try to explain.
If love conquers anything, then it means, you will stay together no matter what. It also means that it will also conquer death, and I don't think it does.
If my boyfriend killed someone in hatress I would still love him, but not stay.
Also I think loosing a child can ruin love between the parents.


- Trine

You've sucked me in.... (Or, as I like to say, goody! I love quizzes.)

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?

I can never pick just one. But my primary choice would have to be When Harry Met Sally, because I honestly think that friendship is the best basis for love. Perhaps also Katherine Hepburn/Spencer Tracy (as in Adam's Rib), because I like that kind of clever bickering with the deep undercurrent of love beneath it. Also, a little bit, Bridget Jones's Diary, because I would love to have a man who likes me, just as I am. Or alternatively, have a hot fling with Daniel Cleaver/Hugh Grant.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?

Love at first sight - no, not really. Attraction, for sure, probably lust as well, but how can you love someone before you really know them? Soulmates - that remains to be seen. I don't think there's just one perfect mate for everyone (I hope there's more than one, but sometimes think there are none), but I do know that there are people you can have a deep connection with. I like what another person said about platonic soulmates, because I agree you can have a special connection with friends as well as lovers.

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?

I enjoy watching them because they feed my unrealistic views of love and romance. They feel good because of the happy ending, because love triumphs over whatever travails may be suffered on the road to love!

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage?

I think that head over heels is a feeling that subsides with time, and hopefully is replaced with a stable, enduring love.

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?

No way. But it can certainly help.

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"You're a nice man, and I like you." (Bridget to Mark Darcy)

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