What's your real life romance story?

I would like to take this opportunity to introduce a different genre to this audience:
Kuch Kuch Hota Hai
and
Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge

These are movies from Bollywood starring Shahrukh Khan & Kajol (& Rani). They have english sub-titles (a lot of the dialogue is in English, though). The second movie (DDLJ) set a record for playing in some theaters for 10 YEARS straight (and still going). You can rent from the internet, buy from Amazon or ebay. Even get them from Blockbuster - you can order them). You will absolutely love these movies.

I very much want to answer this when I get a chance, but for now I can say that
the banter between Hugh and Drew's characters in this film reminded me of my
own love relationship, and makes me smile every time I think of it.




La vita è grande, l'amore è reale, e la bellezza è dappertutto.

1) My leads right now would be Say Anything and Her Minor Thing. I'm a sucker for a guy who gets lost in you. They say there's a fine line between a determined lover and a stalker. I'm partial to the guy who rides close to the line, but stays just on the right side.

2) Yes, yes...yes, yes, yes. Love at first site is rare, but I believe it happens. People say it's just lust, but there's a huge difference between meeting someone and wanting to sleep with the, and meeting someone and feeling like you've known them you're whole life in a second. And I think that's all tied into soul-mates. If you really find that person, the reaction can be instantaneous.

3) I've often said that, the thing I like most about West Wing was that it was how I wished those people were, not how I really believed politicians and White House staffers are. It's the same thing with RomCom's. Sure, they are full of complications and obstacles, but their far more entertaining or emotional obstacles usually. Not the annoying stuff we deal with in our real lives.

4) Relationship, possibly, but not marriage. It's true that feeling may not always last, but I think it at least has to be there at the beginning. Otherwise, why would you tie your life to someone like that?

5) Tricky question. Yes, I believe it can conquer all, but the people involved need to be willing to let it. You can overcome a lot of issues in a relationship, if you'r willing to work hard to protect it. That's where love comes in.

The less a man makes declarative statements the less apt he is to look foolish in retrospect.

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1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?

Well I am currently single but I adore the Pride & Prejudice story. So maybe be like Lizzy and Mr. Darcy or real life couple Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall (without the tragedy of loosing your husband too soon).


2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?

I believe in Soul Mates. I think God has one perfect person for everyone. Love at first sight is a little more lust. But I also like lust at first sight ;-).


3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?

It gives me hope, lol.


4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/marriage?

Nope. I am still holding out for my Mr. Darcy.


5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?

I would like to think so, we'll see....




..I was wondering...Why I'm so lucky. Why I should find you waiting for me to come along.
Humphrey Bogart, Casablanca (1942)

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?
There are so many different movies, but I guess I'd have to say Something New because you have a woman who is successful and has everything except someone to share her life with. Then she comes across a man and he's perfect but he's different. The only thing is this would be me and another woman.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?
I believe in lust at first sight, and then if that person is right for you, you will eventually fall in love with them. I do believe in soul mates because I beleive two people can just be perfect for each other, compliment each other the right way, and gro old and gray together.

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?
I absolutely love romance movies. They are my fav above all. Because you feel yourself falling in love as the two people in the movie fall in love.


4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage?
No. I would have to be head over heels with someone to marry them. Marriage is a big step and I would have to be willing to do anything with and for this person, and the only way is to be head over heels with them otherwise it may end up being head over hell.


5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?
Yes, I believe love can conquer anything. It it was meant to be, nothing can stop it.









"Eva's sisters gave her a cross with Jesus on it for her birthday, the next day Jesus was gone!"

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?
James Spader & Maggie Gyllenhal in "Secretary". Yeah..just outed myself a bit there..lol A romance with some spice and kink...and of course tender love as well.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?
I'm with most who have replied, lust at first sight , sure, but love takes time to develop. As for soulmates, not sure about that. I don't think there is just one person out there for everyone...I think there are quite a few...but circumstances can prevent them from ever meeting or falling in love. I have met many people who are soulmates I suppose...but they worked out better as friends then lovers.

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor?
I'm not huge on the genere actually, but every so often one comes along that makes me feel good and have hope.

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage?
Sometimes it doesn't start out that way.... but as for settling for anything reguarding love...never.

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not?
Not anything and not always. There are somethings people can't do or change about themselves....and there are those who can't accept or change for others...it's just how it is. It takes alot of hard work, and not everyone is willing to work for love.

1) If you could pick one film/couple and make it your real life romance story, what would it be and why?

Never been in love, can't even imagine the feeling... too intellectual I suppose.

2) Do you believe in love at first sight? Soul mates? Why?
No, I don't believe in love at first sight, since I've never been in love. I have been 'in lust', but not in 30 years.

3) Why do you enjoy watching romance films? Why do they have that 'feel good' factor? I like romance films because I do like to see people in love (in the movies)... if the characters are 'nice'... 50 First Dates... Going the Distance... Dark Victory ... The Women (the original version) yes, 'ultimately' it was a romance movie...The Best Years of Our Lives (particularly Homer and his girlfriend's love)... the Enchanted Cottage... movies that have a 'believable' (it 'couldn' happen that way) story line... and they lived happily ever after.

4) Would you ever settle for anything less than head over heels in love in a relationship/ marriage? Obviously, I have been married six times and never been in love. Being 'in love' is not necessary for a good marriage... common .... but 'maybe' being 'in love' will help a marriage last, I wouldn't know, since when whatever attracted me to the marriage goes away, I left, but I told each of them that would happen, since it was never my idea to get married, I figured if they agreed to the terms, they should have steeled themselves for the ultimate end.

5) Can love conquer anything? Why/Why not? Love? Perhaps not 'everything', but 'pragmatic realism' could. I think people make a choice every day to stay or to go... and, for example, if they made the decision daily to stay, till 50 years have passed then for all appearances it could 'seem' as if love conquered all ... opposition? Problems? but it COULD be simply that one was too lethargic to leave... I suspect that will be the case the next time a guy asks me to marry him and I say 'yes'... I'm getting older after all.
Don't get me wrong, one can be quite happy with someone else almost in particular if one does not love the other. It is easier to put up with foibles or cheaters then, if the negatives are offset by positives.

Gee I sound so shallow and 1-dimensional. So be it.

Life is a journey not a destination. Fear nothing.